Real Love Ready – “The Hidden Wisdom in Your Patterns: How Protective Patterns Shape Your Relationships—and How to Change Them”
If you’ve ever looked back at your relationship history and thought, “How did I end up here again?” this piece will feel like a deep exhale. Francesca reframes repeating patterns not as failure or “self-sabotage,” but as protective strategies—parts of you that learned how to keep you safe, even if the strategy no longer serves you. Drawing on her work as a dating coach and former matchmaker (alongside trauma specialist Dr. Frank Anderson’s lens), she brings compassion to the patterns we tend to judge: chasing unavailable partners, people-pleasing, overriding intuition, confusing intensity with compatibility.
Francesca also shares two of her most practical frameworks: her four dating archetypes (Avoider, Looper, Surfer, Sailor) to help you name what’s happening beneath the surface, and her RAW framework—Ready, Able, Willing—to build discernment rooted in self-worth. The throughline is empowering and actionable: awareness matters, but real change comes from living differently, building self-trust one corrective choice at a time.