True love is an inside job.
How to Find True Love: Unlock Your Romantic Flow and Create Lasting Relationships · Hachette, 2025
How to Find True Love is a holistic, empowering, and practical guide to finding lasting love in the midst of a broken dating culture. It will inspire you to transform your dating journey and discover your hidden power to have the love you want.
An Amazon bestseller · Narrated by the author
If you feel disempowered, skeptical, or at a loss as to whether true love even exists, much less whether you have the power to make it real in your life, who could blame you? True love can appear to be dependent on nothing but random luck and good timing.
Despite outer appearances to the contrary, you can connect to love so deeply you make true love inevitable. Why? Because true love is an inside job.
From the Introduction
Four dimensions of love.
Mindset
Change how you think about love.
Heartset
Feel better about love, and yourself.
Soulset
Connect with a higher love.
Skillset
Date in alignment with love.
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▶How to Find True Love — Audiobook ExcerptHachette Audio · narrated by Francesca HogiWhat people are saying.
"When I first met Francesca, I really loved her perspective on love and relationships. I later learned that my friends were sharing her episode on my podcast with their friends to help them better navigate their dating lives. And it worked! I'm grateful all those pearls of wisdom are now in this book!"
Optimist, NYT-bestselling author of The Infinite Game, host of A Bit of Optimism
"We're led to assume our relationships will just work out. Franny has created a thoughtful, tangible user manual for finding and embracing love in every relationship. An important reminder that true love is an active practice."
Co-founder, SoulCycle and Peoplehood
"This isn't just a book about finding love, it's a book about finding yourself first, which is the foundation for everything else. Franny's approach is rooted in self-awareness, self-advocacy, and deep respect for the journey each person must take. A must-read for anyone ready to cultivate authentic, lasting love."
Matchmaker and relationship expert
"If you're single then you need this book in your life! It's like my love bible! Read it, devour it, sleep next to it in bed every night! Thank me later!"
Comedian, actor, screenwriter, author of Living My Best Life, Hun
"Francesca has written YOUR guide to finding TRUE LOVE! This book is inspirational yet practical. If you desire a loving, respectful relationship this book will give you the tools to secure your TRUE LOVE!"
Author of Bevelations, host of SiriusXM's Bevelations
"Francesca Hogi is a gold-standard love coach. Her methods are heart-centered, practical, and rooted in authenticity, and How to Find True Love captures her essence beautifully."
Author of F the Fairy Tale, relationship expert of The Drew Barrymore Show
"How to Find True Love invites you on an enlightening journey that blends mindset, heartset, soulset, and skillset to help you cultivate the deep, fulfilling relationships you are looking for."
Author of Love by Design
"A standout. It is a guide to cultivate a relationship first and foremost with yourself, and to bringing more love and joy into your life, regardless of relationship status."
Author of Real Love Ready: A Guide to Relational Literacy, CEO and founder of Real Love Ready, host of Let's Talk Love
"Franny's book beautifully captures the essence of true love: taking responsibility for yourself and all your parts to build meaningful connections that bring joy and enrich your life."
Spiritual teacher, author of Embody Your Magic: Create the Life of Your Dreams, host of Is My Aura On Straight?