You can’t get something for nothing.

You’ve heard that a million times. I used to think it wasn’t true. I used to believe that way of thinking was cynical. That it didn’t account for serendipity, generosity or kindness.

But at some point, all of that changed. I realized that you must always be willing to give up something to get a new thing you want.

That something could be any number of things. It could be cynicism. It could be fear, or judgment, selfishness, or your fervent belief that you have all the answers. It might be money or lack of effort.

The something standing between you and your dreams could be nothing more than your attachment to your dream unfolding in a specific way.

The nothing, I realize now, is change. You can’t get something you want and expect everything to stay the same. You can’t expect to stay the same.

Want peace at your family’s holiday gatherings?

Are you willing to give up being defensive or judgmental?

Want to find time to go to the gym?

Are you willing to give up your nightly Netflix habit?

Want to find the love of your life?

Are you willing to give up your belief that love should “just happen”?

Once I realized that I had the power to effect change in my life, that was when major changes of my choosing began to happen. I found love when I decided my #1 job was to remove the obstacles standing between me and the relationship I dreamed of. It took some trial and error for me to clear those obstacles (the ones in my mind were the trickiest), but I got there.

And I know you can, too.

If you’re reading this, and you have a specific goal in mind, I want to hear about it. It doesn't matter if it’s finding love, or finding a new job, or training for a marathon, or taking your first solo trip abroad.

I’ve gotten pretty good at quickly assessing the “somethings” that hold people back.

Comment below and let me know your biggest goal, and what you think is standing between you right now and achieving it.

xo

Francesca

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AuthorFrancesca Hogi