Ep #28 Brice Izyah -- Winning At Life Through Authenticity

“Bitch, I am the gift.” Get ready for a laugh out loud, unfiltered conversation with @briceizyah, host of The Purple Pants podcast and former Survivor contestant. Brice opens up about growing up as an openly gay black man, his first-ever relationship, struggling with authenticity and dating, and breaking the pattern of only being attracted to men who aren’t that into him. 

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Ep #27 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi -- What To Do When You're Only Attracted To People Who Aren't Attracted To You

“We want to be right about what we believe more than we want to be happy.” Francesca breaks down what’s really going on when you’re stuck in a dating pattern of only being attracted to people who aren’t that into you. Not only the why of why this happens, but what to do about it so you can break this pattern and find the love you deserve.

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Ep #26 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi -- Does Love Only Happen When You're Not Looking For It?

“Wanting love doesn’t make you desperate, wanting love makes you human.” In this solo episode, Francesca addresses the cliche “you’ll find love when you stop looking for it.” She breaks down the importance of the energy motivating your search for love as the determinative factor in finding the relationship you want. 

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Ep #25 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi -- Are Progressive Women Totally Screwed When It Comes To Dating Men?

“If we give our energy to the people we don’t want, we take that away from ourselves, and from the people we do want.” In this solo episode, Francesca tackles the issues facing single progressive women who want to date feminist men who aren’t racist and truly believe in equality. “Performative wokeness” and fake feminists are a problem in modern dating, and she breaks down how to avoid the fakers and connect with men of true character. 

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Ep #24 Dr. Chris Donaghue -- Rebellious Sexuality

"My sexuality is always operating.” Dr. Chris Donaghue, sex educator, author, TV and radio host, lecturer and sex-positivity activist joins the podcast this week. He and Francesca discuss body shaming and body positivity, the power of sex to heal, casual sex, advice for the sexually inexperienced and unfulfilled, and more. This is a thought-provoking conversation you don’t want to miss! 

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Ep #23 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi -- How To Get More Love Confidence

“Love confidence is belief in your ability to attract and keep committed romantic relationships.” Why do some people get into relationships easily while others stay single and struggle? No matter where you fall on the spectrum of love confidence, Francesca wants you to have more love confidence. Why? So you can get into and stay in a healthy, committed relationship faster and with less struggle. 

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Ep #22 -- Jonathon Aslay: Love, Grief and Personal Growth

“Self love is a vaccination to chaos.” Love coach and author Jonathon Aslay joins Francesca to talk all things love - dating, self love, using social media for personal growth, investing in personal development, and grieving the death of his 19 year old son. It’s an insightful and practical conversation about how we can love ourselves more, judge others less and have more peace and love in our lives!

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Ep #21 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi -- Flirting 101: How To Make Dating Apps Irrelevant

“Every time you leave your house, you have the potential to meet someone special.” Do you know how to flirt? Do you know how to increase your chances everyday to meet your person? Francesca was inspired to record this episode in response to the challenges of online dating, especially for college educated women of color discussed in the last episode. Online dating is a tool, but if it’s not working for you (and even if it is), the flirting mindset and skills can make dating apps irrelevant.

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Ep #20 -- Sarah Adeyinka-Skold: Racism and misogyny in digital dating

“We live in a racist society, so we’re just going to take our racism and our sexism and put it onto technology. You could argue that because we can hide behind technology we can even delve more into racism, fetishism and discrimination.” Did you know that college educated women face additional challenges in finding love online? And that it’s even more challenging for college educated women of color? And that it’s most challenging for black women? Doctoral candidate Sarah Adeyinka-Skold’s research on digital dating reveals the extent to which all women are finding men intimidated by their education, and how women of color are dealing with systemic racism. She and Francesca share how they met their partners and their advice for women of color looking for love.

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Ep #19 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi -- The 4 Dating Archetypes: Avoider, Looper, Surfer or Sailor?

Are you an Avoider, a Looper, a Surfer or a Sailor? Francesca breaks down the 4 Dating Archetypes she’s identified, and how to change your type (if you want to!) to make it easier to find love. She also explains her concept of "love confidence", how your Archetype corresponds to your love confidence, and how to begin to develop yours starting now.

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Ep #18 Amari Ice: Empowering gay men

“Love is not a fairytale. It’s more like a video game. And the #1 reason anybody is single or will soon be single again is because they’re trying to have a level 25 relationship with level 3 skills.” Author, relationship coach and certified matchmaker Amari Ice (@princeamari) is a pioneer - and he’s on a mission to empower gay men to have the lasting love they desire and deserve. In this interview, he and Francesca discuss the parallels and differences between helping gay men and straight women finding love. Amari drops all the wisdom about what holds people back from finding love and what it takes to move past the love blocks of the past.

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Ep #17 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi: How To Finally Love Yourself

“Self confidence isn’t the same as self love.” In this minisode, love and life coach Francesca puts on her coaching hat and breaks down The Self Love Formula™, 5 steps to learn to finally learn to love yourself. She shares the same step-by-step “self love check-in” she uses with her clients and for herself.

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Ep #16 Ben Bidwell, "The Naked Professor": Dropping the mask of toxic masculinity

“Like tears, I felt like kindness, compassion and empathy weren’t personality traits I could embrace if I wanted to thrive as a man.” Ben Bidwell, a.k.a. “The Naked Professor” (@thenakedprofessor) has come a long way from being a “toxic man” to a coach, writer and speaker who teaches the power of vulnerability, the importance of mental health and self love. Ben opens up about his personal development journey which began out of his frustration with not being able to orgasm, his struggles with insecurity, his desire to find a truly connected love relationship, and his ability to inspire and transform the lives of others.

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Ep #15 *Minisode* Francesca Hogi: Rejection Isn't Real

“Rejection is a feeling. Your feelings are valid, but your feelings aren’t facts.” This week, Francesca puts on her coaching hat to break down her philosophy “rejection isn’t real”. Whether you fear romantic rejection, professional rejection or you’re dealing with heartbreak -- she has advice to share on how you can start to reframe your story about rejection and use your new perspective to change your life.

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Ep #14 Carmen Rodgers: Loving love

“I love love. I think experiencing love and heartbreak is par for the course.” Singer/songwriter (and more) Carmen Rodgers (@carmenrodgers) joins Francesca to talk falling in love, why she loves dating, pouring her heart out into her music, heartbreak, bouncing back, what exactly Janet Jackson smells like, the power of scent, Carmen’s skincare line, and more!

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Ep #13 Marcella Kroll: Embracing your magic

"Magic is the only authority I've ever listened to." Magic! Literal and figurative as artist and intuitive (and Francesca's psychic life coach) Marcella Kroll (@marcellakroll) talks about growing up as an outsider, her journey to embracing her magic, dealing with social media "compare and despair" learning to love herself, how she counsels people seeking love advice, her upcoming book Priestess and more!

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Ep #12 Bex Carlos: Growing up and figuring it out

Francesca and Bex (@loudmouthbruja) discuss growing up with “romantic longing” as “weird, smart” women of color. Bex shares what it was like growing up first generation Mexican American in St. Louis, how the 2016 presidential election inspired her to start a podcast to “make sense of the melaninless”, how she’s using witchcraft to connect to her ancestral roots, and what it’s like for her to be in an interracial relationship. They talk sex, sex ed, bad sex ed, and more!

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Ep #11 Corinne Kaplan: Dating makes a great story

“Professional dater”, “advanced drinker” and “social climber” (all her words!) Corinne Kaplan (@corinsanity) sits down with Francesca to discuss her adventure-based approach to dating, her potentially impossible dating standards, and how she lives her best single life. Corinne is a two-time Survivor contestant, Amazing Race contestant and host of the podcast My Best Friend Corinne.

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Ep #10 Dana Hamilton: A sex writer on a mission

Playboy sex writer Dana Hamilton shares her journey to her current career, which came about as part of her eating disorder recovery process. Discovering a pleasure based healing model changed her relationship to her body, pleasure and sex. Dana shares how she began writing about sex, what it’s like to date while speaking boldly and publicly about her own sex life, and more.

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Ep #9 Tazima Parris: Self worth and speaking your truth

Sex and intimacy coach Tazima Parris (@tazimaparris) is back on the podcast dropping more wisdom about sex, relationships, self love and exploration. She and Francesca discuss the struggle to love yourself and where to begin if you don’t feel worthy. Tazima opens up about her decision to begin sharing her own sexually adventurous past, as well as how her life has changed now that she’s married.

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